Trecerea in cealalta parte a Realitatii

Trecerea in cealalta parte a Realitatii

Relatia se refera la Dragoste, maturitate si compromis ”.

…. buf akpan

Nu ne putem tine dragostea, dar exista o singura Iubire care nu schimba niciodata sau care greseste, si aceasta este a lui Dumnezeu. Cu cat ne mentinem mai mult dragostea, cu atat ne apropiem mai mult ca si creatorul nostru

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Marcus Garvey

M-am programat ca voi putea sa pictez imaginea adevarata a acestui gand doar atunci cand ma arunc in relatie un pic, chiar daca relatia este principalul motiv pentru care oamenii sufera sau simt acele emotii negative; iarta-ma, dar nu poti decat sa cresti.

Uneori este greu sa credem ca durerile noastre cele mai mari provin de la cineva de care ne pasa atat de mult si uneori singura solutie pe care trebuie sa o oferim este doar sa ne asezam si sa varsam lacrimi, care ajuta la eliberarea acelor emotii negative acumulate. Ar putea fi greu de despartit de cineva pe care il cunoasteti ca a provocat situatia care a dus la franarea. Este greu de crezut in aceste zile ca fidelitatea inca traieste cu noi. Cineva mi-a spus asta, este greu sa stergi faptul ca logodnicul cuiva poate fi fara ca cineva sa stea acolo, pe care il admira cu adevarat si ar fi decis de fapt sa se casatoreasca daca l-ar fi intalnit inaintea ta: este greu sa crezi ca se poate de fapt Gaseste credinta in relatie chiar asa cum o spunea intr-adevar Biblia: „ un om credincios care poate gasi ?”

Prietenul meu, in timpul programului meu de absolvire, mi-a povestit despre logodnica lui despre care ii pasa atat de mult, dar va crede intotdeauna mincinoasa oricand va mentiona ca nu vede pe nimeni altcineva. Multi dintre noi ramanem fideli partenerilor nostri pentru ca Biblia ne cere, dar nu cred ca de fapt ar trebui sa vina din inima, ceea ce explica de ce cedam uneori in acele presiuni malefice si ajungem sa incercam sa explicam cum s-a intamplat credinciosilor nostri partener care s-ar putea sa nu aiba inima sa continue din cauza amintirilor greu de uitat chiar si atunci cand iertam din cauza modului in care a fost facut omul.

Am auzit despre barbati care au reusit in toate domeniile vietii, chiar si spiritual, dar nu au reusit sa puna cap la cap o casa buna si cand i se da gandul, lacrimile i-au alunecat pe fata.

Am fost in situatii in care imi spun „este mai bine sa fie un vis”; situatii atat de incordate incat simt ca fug.

De multe ori nici macar mesajele nu mi-au putut opri lacrimile sa curga, dar chiar incurajeaza motivele pentru a varsa mai mult si cineva va spune ca nu ascult tipul potrivit de mesaje, uitand ca majoritatea dintre noi fug de anumite realitati care nu pot fi negate. . Aceste realitati sunt ceea ce vreau cu adevarat sa analizam fara sa ne inselam sub nicio forma; a ne insela in aceasta privinta, inseamna a fugi de a ne deschide inima la adevarul si faptele din jurul nostru, mai degraba decat sa cautam acel tip de relatii pe care ni le-au prezentat Nollywood, Bolywood si Hollywood, care sunt reale in memoria noastra.Trezirea gigantului inauntru .

Daca avem o consideratie foarte buna, multi dintre noi vom descoperi cel mai mare moment al nostru de dificultate a fost momentul in care descoperim ca este greu sa iertam un partener, nu jignirea, ci sa ne imaginam faptul ca trebuie sa continuam relatia; eliberarea atat de greu de lasat sa plece, am auzit atat de multi spunand „Dumnezeu va intelege de ce nu-l pot ierta, am incercat de fapt sa-l tolerez”.

A existat un timp in care familia mea a fost intr-adevar pe punctul de a se prabusi, deoarece tatal meu a fost obligat sa o ia pe sotia raposatului sau frate, chiar si dupa sase copii, iar mama (mama) nici macar nu si-a putut imagina mai putin sa o poarte si cand intreaga presiune din partea diferitilor membri ai familiei s-a redus si mama s-a intors deja in casa parintilor din sat, iar tata a cautat o impacare Stateam langa fereastra si ma uitam la tatic si imi puteam imagina cum s-a simtit in ziua in care l-am auzit pe Angel de grupul West Life . Cititi singuri versurile:

Petrece-ti tot timpul asteptand

pentru acea a doua sansa

pentru o pauza care ar face bine

exista intotdeauna un motiv

sa nu te simti suficient de bine

si este greu la sfarsitul zilei

Am nevoie de o oarecare distragere

O eliberare frumoasa

memoria imi scurge din vene

let me be empty

and weightless and may be

I’ll find some peace tonight

In the arms of an angel

fly away from here

from this dark cold hotel room

and the endless that you fear

you are pulled from the wreckage

of your silent revive

you’re in the arms of the angel

may you find some comfort here.

So tired of the straight line

and everywhere you turn

there’s vultures and thieves at your back

the storms keeps on twisting

you keep on building the lie

that you make up for all that you lack

it don’t make no difference

escaping one last time

it’s easier to believe in this sweet madness Oh

this glorious sadness that brings me to my knees.

In the arms of an angel

fly away from here

from this dark cold hotel room

and the endless that you fear

you are pulled from the wreckage

of your silent revive

you’re in the arms of the angel

may you find some comfort here

you’re in the arms of the angel

may you find some comfort here

Mama left a day before and then was when my dad realized he’d been wrong ever considering giving in to the pressure from the family. Thank God I woke up from the nightmare and we became the one big family we have always being; I have heard many more deteriorating and discouraging argument but you will on another minute see them smiling again to each other even though they create an impression to us, the children, they don’t have misunderstanding because they prefer choosing dieing in their hurt rather than letting us grow up with the memories that marriage is full of most days of argument rather than companionship.

I defined what marriage means in my book When God Seems To Be A Fool and I will briefly describe what it means here again; most of us are so familiar with the common definition of marriage but have never sat down to consider why that definition was chosen. We all know marriage is the union of a man and woman coming together as husband and wife, which mean agreeing to one purpose. In life and in the process of going after this purpose distractions must always be encountered because it is always difficult to build but very easy to destroy. The goal of that union is often the target of those distractions and not the union itself, that’s why most people fail in marriage; most people feel they’ve achieved most to be achieved, so a woman should come in, with the mind that the moment she misbehaves, there’s an option “divorce”, but the couples that get married to each other for the purpose of growing together in pursuit of a goal seems to succeed more because the success of that union determines the success of the goal they pursue and the only way that goal can be defeated is when couples give into the distractions that leads to a breakup and whenever this is not achieved, the goal or purpose often face attack itself, consider it.

I am only interested in those situations most of us need to outgrow which will prepare us for a better relationships and my major interest here, I think will be understood the moment you read the following story and I know mama (my mom) will be very surprise when she eventually get to read this thought:

During my graduate programme, I went to see mama in her small kiosk where she sells to support dad in making sure we all go to school (the children) and I met a man who gave me what I requested for (money) from mama but could not imagine a man can still want to go out with a mother of eight who was not looking too good because every money she got was spent on our education and left none to take care of herself, but the day I discovered my mom was been pressurized by this same man I know his family very well; I saw the reason to appreciate mama the more and lost the respect I had for this same man.

My interest here is to let us know that there are times we sometimes face pressures that are so tempting and the only way we can escape them is just to stop building on situations that could encourage infidelity, be sincere to God and your partner; I can remember a day I was going home and on my way I met a beautiful lady I couldn’t take my eyes off, not because of the way she was dressed, but because I felt something within, my body leaped, hmmm! It’s not what you think, it wouldn’t have being God. But I also noticed she couldn’t take her eyes off me until we were both out of each others sight. I have found myself with different ladies at different times and noticed I have feelings for them. We need to be sincere with ourselves because running away from life itself, but at every time this has happened, I have told myself; “hay boy, you have a chioce to make, either to build on that contact that brought about the feelings or decides to continue being loyal to the closets Being to your heart”, and now thinking the closets being to my heart will not be pressurized by someone out there who also desire a good woman proverbs 31 describes will only amount to not been sincere with myself. I have discovered that I am kind of attractive, even when I had nothing my countenance, look is somehow tempting; a lady once told me, someone has also told me I eat in a seductive way, I mean you could imagine the kind of comment you can hear when you find yourself in some atmosphere and this is why I want individuals to start considering thinking over and over again whenever there is a need for a breakup. I believe partners have to start studying their partners in other to know their weakness and the best way is studying oneself before understanding that of our partners. I have told God once, “God I feel like having sex” and before I knew it that feeling disappear. And I ask myself these questions often; why will I give up a twenty years relationship? Why will I give up five years of labour for some kind of situations that have been confirmed to be mistakes? It is difficult experiencing such, don’t get me wrong. Am not interested in stupidity but seeing our partners the way God sees us is all I advocate and it is better we see our situations based on God’s judgment rather than leaning on our own understanding for all our situations and experiencing disappointment. You are a saint, your spouse is a saint but we have not all been perfected but we will someday. And in conclusion, a man or a woman that can not forgive can not live a pain free life which is all this thought advocate.

Buf akpan

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